Practice!

When you begin the journey to unloving someone, you realize that you can't stay stuck on that person forever when he's busy living his life. So, actively taking an interest in your own starts out as a project till the time to get back your groove. Okay, so you still remember every little detail (that will take time), he still crosses your mind every single day, but hey, how long can you be stuck on a person who doesn't even give a shit in the first place. 

So much effort goes into forgetting love versus how easy it is at times to fall for a person. The best things however, that one can do is focus on the facts. If you love him, will you fight for him? Will you stop seeing reality and still be for him? Will you forget how badly he treats you and yet stay with him? Will you gulp down when he wants other women and not you? Will you still love him after you know all of this?

I don't fall in love easy, so when I do, I really fall. Moreover, when you've been jaded a couple of times you take time to fall. You deny yourself the opportunity to fall for anyone who shows interest in you. Post my failure at love again, I tried hard so hard to move on, you know how they say if you can't get over them, get under someone else. Well, that doesn't work and I ended up ruining a lot many friendships in the process. This awkward phase might run out and hopefully I might connect with those people sometime but I feel bad when they cannot get past me not being on the equal level of readiness as them. 

This is when I realised how important it is to come out of a relationship completely. It took me five years last time because the denial period was freaking never ending but it got easier, the second time around I was able to get my focus back early but at what costs, only I know that. So, hopefully the next time around, I might actually for a change get to feel real love. Who knows, maybe it survives a lifetime. That's the hope!