Memoir of a Nincompoop

Some people truly have the propensity to piss you off.  Now, I used to be someone who blew steam quite often when I was young. Almost had flares ready to deploy when I was youngish (not that I’m too old) but over the years (and by constant reminders from mum dearest), I have learnt to control my anger. I tend to understand and calm myself down even if I’m burning from inside. This is a great trick I’ve learnt, I would agree, however some people do bring out the beast in me.

For instance, I’m the kind of person who likes to give honest opinion, even though I might not like the person. That’s me (dumb, I know) but that’s how I’ve been raised. So, if you share concern for a stranger you would definitely do much more for a person you consider a friend, right, WRONG. I’ve come to realise that there are people ( aka askholes), who will drain you, solicit advice from you and still end up doing what they want to do and end up getting screwed over it and then end up cribbing to you about it.

Case in point

• I told a friend to not entertain certain advances from an older gentleman; she didn’t listen and is now totally trapped.
•   I asked a person to be wary of someone, nope won’t listen.
•    I advised a friend to listen before she speaks, control her words and she still ended up fighting with another lady and now that person is on the mission to destroy her.
•    I specifically told my dear sister to not spill the beans about something and she did.

Well, what am I, an idiot? I mean I pride myself on the fact that I do understand how people operate (unless I care/love them, then am a dumb fuck too) but still I can see through people at times. Now what irritates me more is that no one sees how much you exhaust yourself trying to help others. I tend to be way too empathetic for a person and then shit happens.

More so, in such situations I hate it when people aggravate me. For instance, if I say something or post something, and someone ‘tells me” to control myself. I means WTF man, no one asked you to lecture me. I’m entitled to a blowout or two. Also, if someone is making a bloody effort in talking and getting to know you or encourage or for that matter compliment, DO NOT REVERT IN EMOJIS.  Like I’m making an effort here and atleast deserve a response, like a proper bloody sentence.

That’s the problem with people, once you start to care for them; they think they can treat you whichever way they want. People are not toys; you cannot just treat them as per your whims and fancies and come running back or push them away. Yours is not the worst or gravest pain. Everyone goes through shit. If a person cares for you atleast appreciate what they do for you. Unless the agenda like some people is to just play around, “time pass” or whatever it is the kids call it these days, it is NOT ok. Period!  No one is your punching bag. You decide what you want out of someone and please let the other person know it too. If at all you don’t follow their advice, please don’t seek any.