Are you up for it?

I am no saint but I read some lines that led me towards some tranquility: “Everything that comes together falls apart. Everything. The chair I’m sitting on. It was built, and so it will fall apart. I’m gonna fall apart, probably before this chair. And you’re gonna fall apart. The cells and organs and systems that make you you—they came together, grew together, and so must fall apart. The Buddha knew one thing science didn’t prove for millennia after his death: Entropy increases. Things fall apart.” ~ John Green

Expectation. Root cause of every problem is expectation. We assume good things will happen or rather should happen to us, privileges we take because we are free, or when if we belong to an affluent sect, or if we have power. We presume people will be or should be kind to us, we expect them to love us back and with equal intensity that we love them, we believe them to be loyal, we suppose that they should know better, to choose righter, we think that they will do things that we do for them, we anticipate that they will never hurt us. Parents want their child/children be there for them and vice versa. Lovers demand love and loyalty in return. Friends assume they will or should have each other’s back. Enemies expect the other to cause detriment.

In all of this expectation, the felt freedom is lost not because of the societal rules or pressure but emerges from the fact is that there shouldn’t be rules for this. Freedom should be exercised knowing that you will be there for your children no matter what and without an expectation that they will not leave you be because they might, to love them and protect them because they are created by you. Not God, but you. They are your seed, your blood, your DNA which flows through them.

Lovers should be loyal to the other knowing whatever the past one might have. Believe in each other, not because they have to but because they want to. Every relationship takes effort. It is within the paradigms of this freedom that you nurture yourself and those around you. You cannot stop or take away anyone’s freedom to do as they please. It is not your want that they have to fulfill, it’s theirs. Because if that freedom is threatened, people will never stay, they will rebel. But gaining an understanding to face the challenges together, to live in a safe and secure environment, to be there for one another, to sail through the shitty times, to be protected and protect the other is the challenge. Are you up for it?